Then & Now

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Much like everything else in today’s society, adoption has evolved alongside society’s changes, transformations, and revolutions.

In the early 1930s, it was believed that adoption should be a discreet process and that secrecy should be maintained to protect not just the adoptive family, but also the birth parents. American society believed that a relationship between the child, the adoptive family and the birth parents would cause undue stress and emotion for everyone involved. These assumptions, presumed to be adoption facts, were furthered by the societal view that being an unwed mother was shameful. As a result many women quietly snuck away to maternity homes and placed their babies for adoption.

However, by the early 1980s, many came to realize that this secrecy, guilt and shame only led to resentment and depression. Not only did adopted children not have a sense of where they came from, but their adoptive parents lacked…

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Uber Confusion

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I currently have an internship at a local Tampa startup called QualifiedMeetings. The company does inside sales and sales development for enterprise IT companies throughout the nation. It has been a great opportunity and I have learned so much in just the short three months I have been there.

One of the many details I had to figure out when accepting this internship is transportation, as I do not have a car down here in Florida. Luckily, Uber exists and more recently implemented in Tampa, the Downtowner. I try to use the Downtowner when I can because it is free and who doesn’t love free stuff? However, on those occasions when I do have to use Uber I find myself is an awkward and similar situation every time.

I never realized it until I started using Uber more often, but many of the drivers that work for Uber are foreign…

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2nd Birthday

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Yesterday, April 4th was my second birthday. I explained in an earlier blog post that during my adoption process, I ended up with two documents with two different birthdays listed. Later on my parents had to go to court and pick one of the two since someone cannot legally have two birthdays. June 18th is the official date that was chosen. For fun though, my parents enjoy sending me messages every April 4th saying “Happy 2nd Birthday!” Unfortunately I only get presents on my official birthday haha but it’s pretty cool to be able to say I have two birthdays.

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Sarasota

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I may or may not have mentioned that I am a member of the rowing team here at UT in previous posts, I honestly can’t remember. But anyway, this past weekend I was in Sarastota for a rowing competition. This race, along with another one in Oak Ridge, TN, are our two most competitive races we compete in each year. The competition is tougher, the stakes are higher, and requirements to race are stricter.

Our team in unlike the majority of teams that we races in that we do not recruit. Our team is solely built up of “walk-ons,” meaning that we may or may not have had experience before joining the team, and that we were not recruited by the athletic department although we are a NCAA Division II team.

We we wake up early for practice 6 days per week, we watch what we eat to stay within…

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Sister From Another Mister

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If you don’t know by now, both my sister, Cari (pronounced Carrie), and I are adopted from China. Generally the first question I am asked when I tell someone this is “Are you related, you know biologically?” The answer is no. And just like I call my adoptive parents my parents, I refer to my adoptive sister as my sister. We were adopted from two different provinces in China. I was adopted from the Jiangxi province, where my sister was adopted from the Jiangsu province. Many assume that since we are both Asian we must be biologically related. Some people have even thought we were twins! And then asked if my sister was the oldest. Rude. I’m three years older.

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Parent Trap

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Parent Trap has to be one of my favorite childhood movies (the one with young Lindsay Lohan and other young Lindsay Lohan). In the movie, two twin daughters discover that they are in fact twins and that their parents got divorced. Instead of splitting custody, they decided to split up the twins and live two separate lives.

Every once in a while, my mind wonders and I question if there is a sibling out there that I don’t know about. The possibility is very plausible. During the time I was adopted, the Chinese law stating that families were to only have one child was still in enacted. Chances are, if I did have a sibling out there I didn’t know about, I would have a brother. Chinese culture is very male dominated and oriented. If the family wanted its name and legacy to continue, they felt they needed a boy…

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Finding Inspiration

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There’s no better way to learn a skill than from those who do it best. There are hundreds of blogs out there about adoption written from those who have adopted, adoptees, and those that just want to write about it. One of the blogs I have found the most inspiring is by a woman by the name of Mary Beth Chapman. I personally know the Chapman family from back home in Tennessee. The brother of Mary Beth was my swim coach for five years. The story she shares on her blog takes the reader on a journey with the family of 8. Together Mary Beth and her husband Steve have five children, two adopted and three biological. Their youngest, Maria Sue was adopted in 2004 but tragically passed in 2008 after being accidentally struck by an SUV. She has not blogged since 2015, but her story is so inspiring and…

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